Okay, a while back I wrote two posts on being against violence or rather for peace. I submitted to the site Artists4Peace for their monthly category posting. The links for their postings of my posts are linked here: Day 279 and here Day 260. Today, I’m going to ask two question that a comment for Day 279 has brought about: When is it okay to tell? And with children when is it okay to bring in the adults?
Whether you are 15 or 45 do you tell your best friend that her man is cheating on her? Does it matter if she asked you or if the information is unsolicited?
Is there a difference if you see 10-year-old Jimmy stealing from the other kids or if you see 30-year-old Jimmy stealing from his co-workers?
If Susie knows a kid brought a knife to school should she tell?
If twelve-year-old Kim tells her friends that she is being abused and those friends keep the secret — will this increase the chances that she will be abused as an adult and tell no one?
What is the filter for someone keeping their mouth shut — is it whether there is no threat of physical harm? Is it if it doesn’t directly involve you personally? Is it the intent behind the telling?
At least the kids I’ve come in contact with struggle many days of their lives with where is the line. If a kid tells that their friend is going to commit suicide — they’ve saved their friend’s life — but are now considered a snitch and maybe the friend and others hate him. If the kid doesn’t tell and their friend commits suicide — the kid will probably hate himself for a very long time and if the parents and family and even friends find out he knew and didn’t tell — — didn’t save his friend’s life — they will probably hate him too.
I’m sure like most things in life answers will fall on a continuum: always tell — tell but only if… — never tell. What do you think?