I looked out today and the snow sparkled like diamonds. And there was diamond dust in the air. Which made me think of other quotes, “Diamonds are a Girl’s Best Friend,” from the movie/play Gentlemen Prefer Blondes. Which made me think about my post yesterday where I wrote that my whole life is based on a play/movie. And each day I have to make a choice which director I would choose: God or the Ego?
It amazes me that so many people including myself make choices based on what other people tell us, instead of what we instinctively feel. I watched a pseudo-experiment on TV once where women in a mall where asked to choose between two diamonds — which was the more beautiful? Although not a scientific study — the women chose what turned out to be the cubic zirconia (man-made diamond) over the real diamond. Once the women were told how many more thousands of dollars the diamond cost, and were asked which one they picked now, they picked the diamond.
The interesting part of this paragraph was that I almost said how much the diamond was worth not how much it cost. If you are a moment from starving to death which would you place the higher value: an apple or a diamond?
I gave my wedding and engagement rings to my son to do as he wanted. He sold them. Well he sold the gold. He was told the diamonds weren’t worth anything. I’m sure this wasn’t what his father was told when he handed over the cash to buy the engagement ring at the jewelry store. The necklace in this photo probably also has no market value. However, it is priceless to me. Not as a diamond but as a memory. This is the diamond from the engagement ring that my dad picked out for my mom. When I married, my mom and (step) dad had it made into a necklace for me. To me, it represents the union of my fathers in heaven and earth.
In another “experiment”, women were shown pictures of men and told to rate them from 1 to 10 on appearance. These same photos were then given to women to rate BUT this time each man had a bio with the photo. The low scoring men on the appearance scale were given high-profile jobs, big bank accounts, and lots of expensive material possessions. Do you want to guess what happened to their appearance scores with the new bios? Yup. The scores went up. And conversely, the same happened when the opposite was done with the attractive men. Their scores went down.
This post really got started when I looked at a slideshow about what a man’s present for Valentine’s Day really means. Which led me as a former earth science teacher to get all riled up about the inaccurate facts about diamonds. Diamonds are the hardest known mineral at a 10 on the Moh’s Hardness Scale. But they are not rare as gemstones go. In the 1930’s around 10 percent of engagement rings were diamonds and they cost on average 1 months salary. In 1947, the DeBeers’ Company came out with the slogan “A Diamond is Forever” and controlled the amount of diamonds released into the market. This marketing ploy worked. In the 1990’s, 80 percent of engagement rings were diamonds and 2 months salary was being spent on the diamonds.
Have you (like me) been taken in by appearances or advertising? What’s your perfect present? Are all deserving of your love?