THE TO-DO LIST CONVERSATION: I’ve noticed that so many people are so busy — most conversations begin — I’d love to chat but I have to make dinner or rake the leaves or do the dishes.
THE TECHNOLOGY CONVERSATION: You’re talking to someone and they answer the phone or text in the middle of the conversation or the TV is left on or they’re messing with the computer.
THE ALL-ABOUT-ME CONVERSATION: The other person wants to tell you about their great trip or their latest break-up and don’t really care what you have to say.
THE I’M ON IT CONVERSATION: Not to be sexist but this is mostly with men. Men are doers and fixers and they hear half of your problem and their minds are off trying to figure out how to fix it.
I’VE ALREADY DECIDED I’M RIGHT CONVERSATION: Someone says lets talk and they sit there telling me how they’re right and I’m wrong. (Okay this is the one I’m most guilty of)
SOMEONE MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOU IS IN THE ROOM A.K.A THE POPULAR GIRL IS TALKING AND YOU’RE NOT HER.
I’M THE ADULT A.K.A I’M THE BOSS.
Now here is the really important question — when I asked — “How many times in a day do you receive undivided attention?” — Did you think of one of the categories listed? Did you automatically think about a conversation with someone else? Did anyone think about giving yourself undivided attention?
How often has your inner voice whispered and your attention was elsewhere? Do you listen when your best friend is in pain but ignore your own pain when it is speaking to you? Is your mind speaking to you and instead of listening you pick up the phone or turn on the TV? Has the voice in you head already made a judgement call before ever listening to the voice from your heart?
I don’t know about you but I need to go listen to myself and then maybe I’ll be a better listener with others.